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October 24 2017

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I think this is a good time to post this.

(#if we reblog it enough it might become a staff pick)

Keep it up.

List of resources for dnd








roll20: Make an account to play the game

Orcpub: For hosting and editing your character sheet

DND Wiki: Homebrew things, races, classes, misc

Players Handbook: Rules how to play how to make a character, all basic information for playing a game

Discord: to talk during and about the game

Mythweavers: another character sheet editor

Homebrewery: homebrew creation tool. Uses basic coding language to great effect.

If anyone wants to join just join the discord server and post your character


can randomly generate just about ANYTHING. awesome for dms

Tabletop Audio: background music and sound effects for the ambience.

PCGen - a character creation program that handles all the tricky and tedious parts of building characters, including NPCs.

d20pfsrd.com - all the free information you would ever need to play Pathfinder, an alternative to D&D













Some people are so against “pregnant people” because it includes trans men and nb folks that they don’t seem to realize it includes cis women and girls.

A huge number of trans men have said that the term triggers their dysphoria but alright


No, I won’t just say “pregnant women.” Because I’m talking about pregnant people, women included.

How many trans men do you know of who want to be pregnant?

It’s ridiculous to try to change language to be inclusive of the 0.0001% at most. Just because pre-T trans men CAN get pregnant doesn’t mean they do except in VERY rare cases. I can’t think of anything that would trigger a trans man’s dysphoria more.

Actual trans man here!!!! I had a baby and you know what was triggering??? People lumping me in with women literally constantly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My entire pregnancy everything was about pregnant women!!!! I was constantly referred to as a pregnant woman in all of the resources and literature!!!!!! Not to mention the fact that people like you are the reason I wasnt able to find gender neutral or masculine pregnancy clothing!!!! So I was uncomfortable literally ALL THE TIME

But you’re going to sit here and PRETEND to care about men like me who WILLINGLY go through pregnancy and child birth by…. Refusing to recognize that we exist in far greater number than you think?? You’re literally going to sit there and use us as a weapon against… US???? What kind of fucked up next level transphobia is that??????

We exist, we’re here, and just because you’re transphobic doesn’t give you the right to use our names in your crusade against us. Pregnancy was triggering in its own ways, but you know what? I would do it a billion times over for my child. I would go through all of it again and again and again for them. It can’t be helped that that was what was necessary to bring them into the world

But what CAN be helped is transphobic people like you not exacerbating our dysphoria by insisting on calling us women just because you don’t like acknowedging that we exist. I’m not a fucking mythical unicorn that you can pull out to try and win arguments. I’m real. Sorry that this is inconvenient for you.

Second trans man weighing in here. I also have been pregnant, a total of three times. The first resulted in the birth of my daughter, and I knew I was trans before getting pregnant. After having her we realized that my window for having the second child that we wanted was closing because my dysphoria was getting worse and worse and I ended up having a miscarriage at 8 weeks, which sucked, and then a miscarriage at 22 weeks, which as devastating because 1) 22 weeks was a fucking long time to fight through dysphoria only for a pregnancy to fail, 2) i knew that my dysphoria was bad enough that I could never put myself through this again, so our dream of having 2 kids was over and 3) my temporary physician’s refusal to listen to me when I said that I would never be pregnant again and to please schedule me for a d&c was flat out ignored because she was certain I’d change my mind and decide to have another baby and wouldn’t let me do anything that wasn’t let the tissue pass naturally, which is unfortunate because my body straight up hung onto it for six fucking months. I spent half a year that I desperately wanted to be considering a plan for transitioning going in for weekly blood tests to measure my levels, of having people, doctors, nurses, blood lab technicians telling me that it was okay, I’d “get to be a mommy again” as soon as this was all cleared up.

So much of having children is centred around being a mother, being a woman, the gift of motherhood. I hated every second of that, and that was all anyone could talk about through all of it. But you know what? I still had a baby. What would you have me do? Pretend I didn’t? Throw either myself or my husband under the bus every time someone asks how we managed to acquire a baby? How our family exists? Who do I devalue? Whose contribution is less important? Who has to pretend that they’re not genetically related to our child, who gets the credit for how fucking hard it was to bring her into this world, into a family that loves her more than anything?

Pregnancy was not easy, and it was even harder because of my dysphoria. I sacrificed a LOT to make our family happen, and I would rather be counted among ‘pregnant people’ than ‘pregnant women’, and I certainly don’t want to hide my hard fucking work to make others feel comfortable.

Trans men can and do have their own children pre, mid and post transition, and we’re far more common than you seem to think we are. Don’t speak on our behalf, especially when we’re loudly telling you to stay in your own lane.

Im a trans man who plans on getting pregnant quite soon i prefer ‘pregnant person’ and while I’m pregnant if anyone calls me a pregnant woman i am going to slap them.

While we’re at it, the insistence on equating pregnancy with motherhood/womanhood is the exact kind of thing that makes people think they can only refer to sperm-producing parents as “the father”, which is also infuriating (if not quite as infuriating as it would be to be pregnant on top of that)

my favorite thing about this thread is the nontrans person saying that “pregnant people” is more dysphoria triggering for trans men than saying phrases implying that every pregnant person is a woman… and then getting promptly told off by actual trans men who have experienced pregnancy

I’m also a trans man whose had a child and also plans to have another. The entire time I was pregnant I hated being referred to as a woman. I hated being treated as such. It made being pregnant so hard. I hope one day other people will acknowledge that not only women can be pregnant. :/

Pretty sure I reblogged this at some point from my old blog, but why not here too?

I’m a trans man. I have legally transitioned (name change as well as gender markers. I had to fight but my insurance let me keep male markers and be covered on pregnancy insurance (I’m on Medicaid))

I have been pregnant twice and have one wonderful baby who is 8 weeks today.

“Pregnant person” has never once made me feel dysphoric, but you know what has? Being called a woman and mother.

“Pregnant people” includes EVERYONE who can get pregnant. Cis women are people. Cis girls are people. This phrase inudes them as well as trans men, nonbinary people, agender people, any gender who are get pregnant. If you are not pregnant the phrase does not include you. It is only applicable to people who are currently pregnant, while they are pregnant.

If you are not a trans man, don’t speak for us. Even if you are a trans man you don’t speak for all of us.

If you can think of a better phrase that includes EVERYONE who is pregnant, be my guest.

But until there is better language to talk about people who experience what the concersation is about we will keep using the language we have been.

Also, to my fellow seahorse dads and non-women birth parents/pregnant people:

I am proud of you! You did something incredible! Not only did you make a tiny human, but you did it in a society that insists you don’t exist and aren’t who you say you are! You did it in a transphobic society with trans incompetent medical staff!

Just say pregnant people. Literally they’re people who are pregnant. Provide resources to those people. Support those people.


October 23 2017



since it’s asexual awareness week I wanna rec some books with great ace characters from all over the ace spectrum 
(some have more than one!!!!!!! actually i think all of my recs have more than one tbh)


Collection of short stories:


I’m currently reading Chameleon Moon and love it so far! I’d also recommend the Sidekick Squad series by @authorcblee and the Mangoverse books by @shiraglassman. Here’s a post on ace rep in Shira’s books. I recommend starting with the Olive Conspiracy and Tales from Perach. :)






A werewolf film written by a woman wouldn’t be as interesting because they know how unrealistic it is to be caught by surprise by something that happens regularly every damn month.

#run right into queue#no no no no no the exact opposite#by this standard a werewolf film written by a woman would be much more interesting because it would be more /varied/#some werewolves who are prepared not only for their own shift but also for those of six of their closest packmates#some werewolves who wake up already covered in fur and look at their ruined clothes and think ‘oh /shit/ that was yesterday’#some werewolves who can’t be assed to figure out what day it is and therefore have an alert set in their phone#so that once a month they wake up not to a blinking ‘wake up’ message but to ‘wake up and Be Prepared’ and dramatic hyena music#(and then inevitably lose/break/forget to charge their phone the day before and spend hours humming uncomfortably#before suddenly remembering at the least convenient moment possible and rushing off stripping as they go)#not to mention the one werewolf who only transforms one night a month and then has to refrain from gloating#while they help their one packmate who’s been shifted for an entire goddamned week and has started dreaming of murder (via @ereborne)

And then there’s that werewolf who goes three full moons without transforming, then transforms one night during a waxing crescent moon.

Now I’m imagining some on the werewolf form of the pill and having to regularly keep up their schedule and one werewolf telling another that they used to have such irregular changes but the pill now makes things so much easier and the other werewolves being like oh man I should talk to my doctor about this.

All i imagined is some poor fucker that’s like “you think you have it bad. I got my first change at 9 and change sporadically every 4 months or so. For 2 weeks. Sometimes it happens randomly so i just gave up.”

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spoilers for HZD ending

Keep reading


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October 06 2017


Me: *is feeling bad*
Also me: *can’t think of a way to make it funny*
Brain: can’t talk about it then

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baby: *incomprehensible babbling*

me: WHAT!? really??? no way :0

This is actually really good for babies’ brain development. You’re laying the groundwork for conversation, teaching them through example that people take turns talking and listening.

Did you know that babies from affluent families hear an average of thirty MILLION more words before age 5 than babies in families below the poverty line? For context, Les Miserables is about 650,000 words and it looks like this:

So it’s like reading this book 46 times.* And that’s not the total number of spoken words, that’s the GAP between affluent and poor babies. And these are the years in which the brain undergoes the most development. It’s mind-boggling.

So what I’m saying is: keep doing the thing. Do it to all babies, all the time. Narrate your day. Ask them for opinions. (“Should we buy the large bag of potatoes or the small bag?” “Gaabooglagje.” “Yes, just as I thought.”) Point out colors and shapes and letters. Let them scribble outside the lines and treat their babble like talk. Sing them nursery rhymes and Raffi songs and songs from the radio. All of these things are going to build their brains to prepare them for kindergarten and beyond.

*Please do not read Les Mis 46 times to an infant. They don’t even care about the Parisian sewer system.

October 05 2017

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Fantasy Classes series by Forrest Imel: Warrior, Warlock, Priest, Paladin, Druid, Mage, Ranger, Thief


When I was a very small child, my mom used to bury coins in my sandbox, leave huge boot prints in the sand, and tell me pirates had come in the night and buried treasure. I would be out there happily for hours, with my little sieve, and my mom got a quiet morning to herself for the price of a handful of pennies.

I was always kind of skeptical about Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy, because visiting every kid in the world did not seem reasonable. But the pirates only visited me, so they were probably real.

So that’s the story of how I ended up being an archaeologist. How about you?





does anyone else ever have a meltdown in one chat window and a totally normal conversation in another

It’s nice that modern technology allows compartmentalization to become so very literal.


advanced level is when youre having a normal conversation in one app and a breakdown in another and both convos are with the same person

October 04 2017


I’m here, I’m queer, and my joint pain is moderate to severe



new cryptid: tumblr users who have never changed their url

look ma, imma cryptid

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I needed this.

Thank you to all the people who posted this so I ended up seeing it. I really needed this right now. Thank you!

October 02 2017

So what’s it like being a mage in Dragon Age?

October 01 2017



good d&d moments

-saying someone immidiately dies when they flub a survival check

-when one person is in on the horribleness/weirdness the dm is doing and they’re laughing while everyone is freaking out

-improvised weapons

-begging the dm to let you use a skill beside the one they just told you to roll

-everyone rolling low on perception and hearing the dm say “okay, never mind”

-deliberately terrible character voices

-running jokes that spring up within a group

-watching someone make an idiot of theirself in front of an important npc

-the evil dm laugh

-feel free to add more

-making checks for mundane things (DM made everyone roll a constitution check to see how well they handled spicy food)

-when u roll really well and the dm sighs bc u just ruined their bossfight

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Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

This makes so much sense omg

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